Thursday, August 4, 2011

Shodasha Samskara !! very precious.......

Q: Dear Guruji, what is Shodasha Samskara?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Shodasha Samskara! Shodasha means 16. There are 16 Samskaras which make human life. In a man or a woman’s life, there are 16 ceremonies or rituals that would impact the life. So what are they? It starts from Garbhadhana, it starts with conception. There is a way to conceive, conception is the first one. There is a whole Samskara about conception - how a man and woman should get together, what time, when, to conceive a baby. This knowledge has been kept a secret. If you want a girl how to conceive, on which day conception should happen, if you want a boy…when etc.That is about conception - Garbhadhana Samskara. It is done with certain mantras and ceremonies. This is almost not in so much use. They usually do it on the wedding day itself - chant some of the mantras and finish as though the whole ritual is over. And the fifth month there is a ceremony called Pumsavana and then eighth month, Seemanta - a ceremony is done on the eighth month. And the lady is given all that she wants, all her desires are fulfilled. Whatever she wants is gifted to her telling her you are bearing a new universe inside of you and making her happy. So these are three Samskaras - Garbhadhana, Pumsavana, Seemanta. The fourth Samskara is the naming ceremony. Before eleven days after the birth, the naming ceremony is done. The father, mother choose a name and they put a little honey into the tongue of the child and in the right ear they pronounce the name of the child. Naming ceremony is the fourth one. And then the first time to remove the hair, it happens between first and third year, Chaula. Chaula means removing the first hair. When they remove the hair then they also pierce the ears. You know ear lobe is where all the nerve endings are there so they pierce the ears. Scientifically the ear lobes seems to bring more awareness, more intelligence; Chaula. Then between eighth and eleventh year they do Upanayana Samskara where the child is taken to the school first. From childhood to adolescence, before they go, they are told you have these responsibilities in your life to perform - this, this, this you have to do. And then The Gaythri Mantra is given to them. Brahma Upadesha means ‘You are that’, ‘Thou are that’, this upadesha is given. This is the next. After Upanayana, a person studies, goes to school and stays in the Gurukul with the teacher, the Guru. After he finishes his education, then there is Samaavartana. Samaavartana means finishing the education and getting into the work life and then wedding, marriage. Like that the samskaras go on till the death ceremony, the last ceremony, Antiyeshti Samskara. All these samskaras are part of life. Ancient people had mantras for all that.

It is juicy!!!

Q: Can dispassion and longing go together?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar:
They have to go together, that is wisdom. Longing is one side and dispassion is the other side. Where there is no dispassion, longing can turn into bitterness. If there is only dispassion, then there is no juice and we need some juice in life, some thrill, some fun. And spirituality is full of juice; full of thrill, enthusiasm, joy. Unfortunately spirituality is perceived as such a dull, boring, serious thing - it is never like that. The Divine is full of juice. It is juicy, and spirituality is so juicy. So anyone who has gone close to the Divinity, to the source has always become very juicy, not dry.


Q: What role does Karma play in our life?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Everything is karma my dear! You’re asking a question it is karma; karma means action. And to listen to your question - that is my karma. But then, to answer it or not is my choice and your karma, got it? Everything is karma.

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Gift of Smile 1

"The more dispassionate you are, the more the power of Sankalpa comes to you"

Let it be .... :-)

‘No one can cause suffering or bring comfort to anyone. Everyone experiences pleasure or pain according to his/her own karma.’


Q: Guruji you give a lot of knowledge, a lot of sessions of knowledge. Sometimes I understand, sometimes it goes above my head. What should I do so that my receptivity to knowledge is increased.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Yes, keep listening and some one day you will say,' ahh that is what Guruji was saying'. Three levels are there, one is Shravana – Listening, Manana – Dwelling on it again and again and then Nidhidhyasa – when it becomes your own, that knowledge become part of you.


Q: When my wrong deeds hurt somebody, how do I handle this situation?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Okay, if your wrong deed has hurt someone, resolve you will not repeat it. Say,' okay, I did something that has hurt someone; from now on I will not do it'. This resolution may help, you may fail once, twice, thrice but continue with the resolution.


Q: For this shloka from the Upanishads, ‘Thailya Dharavat Anu Sandhaanam Nairantarya Dyaanam’ You have given the explanation like a flow of oil when a faint idea persists in the consciousness. What is this faint idea? Is it about the knowledge of the principle in life or is it the flow of energy within us?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Flow of energy, there is a faint flow of energy. When you are doing Sahaj, the mantra is there, the faint idea, that’s what it is.


Q: In spite of knowing that I am hollow and empty and knowing the causes of misery, mind still gets stuck in objects and people. You know it just comes like a storm and just goes. At this age especially with girls it happens for me so what do I do?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Gets stuck with objects and persons but how was the meditation now, tell me? (Ans - Awesome Guruji). Awesome! The mind got free from those things? (Ans – Yes). So, like that, keep doing. From time to time these sorts of things come and they go. You don’t try to chase them out. If they come, okay, let it be. Our law is what? Principle is let it be.

wait.... let them come!!!

Q: A member of the audience asked this question. It was inaudible

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Friends make fun of you being in spirituality? Yes, you smile at that and say, 'What a great thing you are missing you don’t know'. Tell them,'Anyways you are going to follow this; it is only a matter of time', you tell them. 'In five years you will come for this knowledge. And we are pioneers you know', tell them,' I am a pioneer in everything, we first taste and whatever we leave behind you take it'. If anyone makes fun of you, you keep smiling, don’t lose your smile. Tell them wait, wait, it is only a matter of years; you will be doing the same thing. Tell them they are used to eating the leftovers; tell them, 'I am enjoying the good meal now'.

Saturday, July 9, 2011

“When you want God as badly as you want the air, then you'll find him ! ”

A holy man was meditating by a river when a young man interrupted him.“I have looked for God everywhere and I didn't find him. Can you show God to me ?"The holy man jumped up, grabbed him by the scruff of his neck, dragged him into the river, and plunged his head under water. After holding him there for a minute, with him kicking and struggling to free himself, the holy man finally pulled him up out of the river. The young man coughed up water and gasped to get his breath. When he eventually quieted down, the holy man spoke. “Tell me, what did you want most of all when you were under water.” “Air!” answered the man. “Very well,” said the holy man. “When you want God as badly as you want the air, then you'll find him ! ”

SANKALPA

Q.What is the importance of sankalpa (intention) and how to strengthen it? Does the world move on sankalpa?

A. The mind is full of sankalpa and vikalpa (imagination, fancy). Each work gets done through sankalpa. Even the act of moving our arm is preceded by the sankalpa in the mind. If twenty sankalpas arise in the mind then nothing gets done. When the mind is peaceful and restful then our sankalpa is powerful.

The sankalpa of a weak mind is weak and that of strong mind is strong.
We can make our mind strong by sadhana (spiritual practices) and knowledge. Then the sankalpa will also be strong. The wise makes one sankalpa in fifty days whereas the ignorant makes fifty in a day.



Q.What is the importance of sankalpa (intention) and how to strengthen it? Does the world move on sankalpa?

A. The mind is full of sankalpa and vikalpa (imagination, fancy). Each work gets done through sankalpa. Even the act of moving our arm is preceded by the sankalpa in the mind. If twenty sankalpas arise in the mind then nothing gets done. When the mind is peaceful and restful then our sankalpa is powerful.
The sankalpa of a weak mind is weak and that of strong mind is strong.
We can make our mind strong by sadhana (spiritual practices) and knowledge. Then the sankalpa will also be strong. The wise makes one sankalpa in fifty days whereas the ignorant makes fifty in a day.

The more Sadhana, Seva and Satsang we do, the more fulfilled we feel. Hasn't it happened that after an Advanced course or a refreshing meditation or a meeting with Guruji we have felt "I don't need anything, I'm just so full of joy and love right now" The frequency with which this happens is a measurement of how much our mind is in the present moment. This means less Sankalpas per day and each of our Sankalpas become very powerful and greater chance of fulfillment. If more and more we feel that " All I want, I already have !" then more will come our way.

The Yogis and Rishis of Yore lived in this state of Gratitude (in varying degrees) and fulfillment so they had the power of not only fulfilling their own wishes but also of others by granting a boon. This is very scientific and experiential truth. We can all do our own experiments with this. Modern scientists and thinkers are realising the importance of this and coming up with books and movies ( e.g. The Secret ).

The one word which really will see to it whether your Sankalpa will materialise or not is " INTENSITY " .The more badly you want something, the quicker you'll get it.

Desire!

"Desires fulfilled or unfulfilled, leaves us empty handed." How many times in our life, a fulfillment of a desire has given us great satisfaction ? Desire simply implies that we are looking for joy in the future and not "Right Now!".

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Every death could remind you the truth of life.

The death of death is Shiv tatva.
While walking you can rememeber that you are not the body, but aatma. Just like when you are wearing a cloth, but you are not the cloth.
Every death could remind you the truth of life.
The truth of life is death and the truth of death is life.
This is a wonderful opportunity to be knowledge.
I am the aatma, undying aatma.

Saturday, June 4, 2011

from somebody to nobody.... and.....nobody to everybody.

Q: Jai Gurudev. Gurudev. I have read a lot of your books and I have read books by Sathya Sai Baba and Osho. I found no difference in them, they all talk about love and I just feel they are different physical manifestations. One thing I am greatly influenced by Osho is his concept of Zorba The Buddha. I wanted your perceptions on that. I really like the way he talked about material and spiritual together. Just want to hear what you feel.


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Yes, he was a great orator and he spoke really well. He had a deep intellectual insight which is fine but one thing that was missing there was the knowledge of the mantras; knowledge of the tradition of the mantras. Buddha said it is all nothing, everything is nothing and he also said I searched for the ultimate, I searched for the Self but I found there is no Self, there is no atma. I searched and searched and finally found there is not atma.But in the Sanatana Dharma, Adi Shankara said, ‘Who searched? Who is it that did not find? That is atma.’ So, it is like two sides of the same coin. He talks about the emptiness and on the other side the Vedanta speaks about the fullness. So it is one step, from somebody to nobody is one step. Buddha stops at that, from somebody to nobody, and Vedanta takes you from nobody to everybody.

peaceful mind is the house of God!!!

Q: Jai Gurudev, Guruji, I know the world through the mind, intellect, memory, ego, etc., but only after leaving these six levels can I know my true self. So my question is when we leave these six levels, how do we establish our self in the seventh level?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: We don’t have to leave the six levels; we cannot leave the body, mind, intellect. We have to be with this and know the Self. The body, mind, memory, intellect, ego is there and let it be there. Start meditating and relaxing for a few minutes every day, before starting your work, after your work. See, when you meditate and your mind becomes quiet, that peaceful mind is the house of God. That is why you cannot know God but you can be one with God. You are feeling peaceful, you are feeling happy, going deeper and deeper. In this, you will start to experience that 'I am everybody, it is all only me'.

Friday, June 3, 2011

Real happiness can be achieved only through meditation.

Q: Guruji, while doing pooja when we see the decoration of the idol of the Divine it feels very beautiful. But when we close our eyes and meditate, even that is very beautiful. So, what should we do, should we see or should we meditate?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Go deep in meditation and that is the best pooja. What is pooja? ‘Yena kena prakarena yasya kasyapi dehinad, santosham janayetpragyah tadeveshvarapujanam.’What is the best form of worship? In whichever way, bringing happiness and peace to the hearts of people is the best form of worship; bring happiness to everybody. ‘Yena kena prakarena’ was said in those days. Now it cannot be done. Real happiness can be achieved only through meditation.

we should do efforts to nurture the good qualities in others

Q: Guruji, it is said in Puranas that a wife wishes for the same husband for the next seven life times. Is it true?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: See, I am not qualified to answer this question. You can ask people around you and find out. Some will say yes and some will say no, take a census and go by your experience. 
Once, this lady in America was telling that she has been married for 40 years and she has been living with the same husband. The other people present were wonder-struck at how she was living with the same man for 40 years. Then she said if you don’t know how to row one boat, even if you change the boat, you will not know how to row it. I said, ‘This is the story of every family in India and this tradition is there in the villages.’ If you don’t know how to row a boat, changing the boat is no use.That is why, however the people around us are, we have to maintain a good relationship with them and through whatever means and efforts we should nurture the good qualities in others. Just criticizing anyone is not helpful. Instead you have to become a bridge. If you are just going to sit and criticize then it will only bring distance. You have to understand them, where they are coming from and why are they doing wrong. And then you explain to them lovingly, win them over with love. This takes a lot of time; it is very easy to criticize someone and keep them away from you. That can be done in minutes but to be with them day and night, to explain to them and to bring change in them is very difficult and important. That is what should be done.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

everyone is significant yet insignificant

Q: Is there something like a good or bad being? If someone is bound by an outer problem, does the negative path follow him? How to get rid of that?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: There is no good or bad soul. There are strong and weak souls. Strong souls are happy, and weak ones are sad. Now, how does a soul become strong? Devotion strengthens the soul. Love strengthens the soul, hatred and sorrow weakens the soul.

प्रश्न: इस विशाल ब्रह्माण्ड की तुलना में यदि हमारा आस्तित्व कुछ भी नहीं हैं तो हमारे जन्म लेने या न लेने से उस का क्या प्रभाव होगा ?

श्री श्री रवि शंकर: इस ब्रह्माण्ड में वैसे तो कुछ भी मायने नहीं रखता फिर भी सब कुछ का मायना होता हैं यदि कोई भी एक प्रजाति लुप्त हो जायेगी तो इस ब्रह्माण्ड का विनाश हो जाएगा यदि सारी मक्खियां लुप्त हो जायेंगी तो इस ब्रह्माण्ड का विनाश हो जाएगा और वह आस्तित्व में नहीं रह सकता आजकल वैज्ञानिक भी यही बात कहते हैं, कि यदि किसी किस्म की तितली या फूल गायब हो जायेंगे तो ब्रह्माण्ड का आस्तित्व नहीं रह सकता एक मक्खी के लिए इसका कोई महत्व नहीं कि यहां पर कितने गृह, सौर मंडल या आकाश गंगा हैं ! फिर भी यदि मक्खी लुप्त हो जाए तो ब्रह्माण्ड का विनाश हो जाएगा इसलिए मक्खियां महत्वहीन होने बावजूद महत्वपूर्ण हैं उसी तरह हर कोई व्यक्ति महत्वहीन होने बावजूद महत्वपूर्ण हैं


Q: Is there something like a good or bad being? If someone is bound by an outer problem, does the negative path follow him? How to get rid of that?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: There is no good or bad soul. There are strong and weak souls. Strong souls are happy, and weak ones are sad. Now, how does a soul become strong? Devotion strengthens the soul. Love strengthens the soul, hatred and sorrow weakens the soul.


Q: Is Lord Vishnu’s task easier or is your task here on Earth easier?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Look I do not do any comparison. If my task is easy or difficult, I don’t go and discuss it and think about it. Whatever it is, if it is difficult we have to do it, if it is easy we have to do it and it is all happening through the Vishnu shakti only. Vishnu is not somewhere sitting in the Waters, Vishnu is the one which has His existence in each and every inch of this Creation.

Friday, May 20, 2011

Express you with skillfully

Q: Guruji, if our nearest and dearest ones don’t understand the feelings that we have towards you and they logically try to analyze and this hurts us. How do we handle this situation, this often comes in our life.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Why do you want to explain everything to everybody? Feelings are such that people don’t understand. You don’t have to express all your feelings like that. They could be insecure and think that you will leave home and go to the Ashram and be there. So see that people don’t get into that fear. Your love and devotion should be expressed only as much as they can understand. Same with joy, sometimes you don’t know how to express your happiness; if you express too much people don’t understand.One devotee went to a funeral of somebody, a mourning meeting and there were bhajans and he started dancing and the people didn’t understand. There is satsang and bhajans, of course you dance when you are in joy and he said that anyways everything should be a celebration. But if you dance there people can get annoyed. So you should see what a person can understand; how much they can understand and how to convey what you want to convey. Be skillful in conveying so that your expression doesn’t bring fear and anger in others as much as possible. And then ignore. Beyond a level you should simply ignore.

Q: Guruji, my wife and me separated two years back, we want to remarry now. You can say in our case our divorce did not work but we both are scared, are we committing the same mistake again? Please guide.

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: It’s a good intention that you want to make it work. As time goes your consciousness changes, your mind changes, and you are understanding changes. In this changed scenario if you feel like giving another try to make things work, there is nothing wrong, try it anyway. If it doesn’t work, then don’t choose the same partner in the next lifetime.

Dispassion is what you invoke in yourself

Q: Guruji, you asked us to be dispassionate and you also say that dispassion is a happening. I really want to be dispassionate but I am confused how can I create a happening in my life? Please guide


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Dispassion is not a happening; I would say dispassion is what you invoke in yourself. When you widen your awareness, when you see everything is going to disappear and death is imminent, we are all going to die and everything is changing; when this knowledge comes - then dispassion is spontaneous. You need to understand and see life from a broader perspective and then automatically dispassion comes within you; but there is some effort. A little effort from you and then it will happen.

connect with the unchanged aspect inside you!!!

Any celebration can be genuine only when there is dispassion in the heart. When the mind turns inwards and latches onto that which is not changing, that which is eternal. You know what, the moment you see that deep inside you are eternal, then what is death and what is birth? It’s like people saying the sun is rising and the sun is setting. Neither does the sun rise nor does the sun set, in the same way we are not born and we never die. We remain, we stay; that aspect of our consciousness is what we need to latch on to and that is the spiritual path; that’s it!Generally you have all noticed that somewhere deep inside you there is this feeling that I am not changing, everything else is changing but I have not grown up. I also don’t feel that I am 50 plus at all and similarly every one of you feel that you haven’t grown up. There is something in you that says, 'I have not changed, I have not aged'. You really are ageless and still you do all these celebrations.If celebration can bring more service activity then I would go for it every day! Why once a year? I am so glad that hundreds and thousands of volunteers today around the world are engaged in some or the other service activities. There are so many blood donation camps and so many programs happening. As I am speaking there are so many satsangs that are happening right now and we are on the webcast and millions of people are watching and I am congratulating them all. You have done a lot of service activities today. Keep it up and take any excuse to do service activities.For life to be blissful, two things are essential. One is dispassion. Latch on to that inner being that is non-changing. Just recollect and remember that you don’t change and nothing inside you changes, you are eternal. When you are anchored in that dispassion then life becomes a celebration, at the same time service activities happen through you spontaneously. So when we are doing service activity, we have to share. Whatever we have, we should share with everybody and when we go deep inside our Self, then dispassion arises. These two things, service and dispassion, can make life a celebration. So snatch any occasion to have these two values.A celebration without dispassion is very flaky. It is superficial, and there is no depth to it. In the same way service without dispassion is also not the best quality service because it tires you down. We need to be more dispassionate and do service activity and then life becomes a celebration.My being here is only to remind you that your being is eternal, we are all eternal and in life challenges come and problems come, some pleasant, some unpleasant. All these events come and situations come, but don’t worry. I am with you and together we will sail over all these rough waters and we will make life a celebration. We have already made life a celebration and we will continue to bring celebration to our life and continue to bring more celebration into the lives of the millions of people around us, yes!Actually you should remember you are a gift to the world. You are not a burden to the planet but you are a gift and when you feel that self-worth coming up within, you will be able to do wonderful things for people around you. When you are satisfied, when you are fulfilled, you can only think of what you can do for everybody else and to realize that you must realize the fact that you are a gift to this world.I was giving the analogy of a match stick; remember that you are a match stick. The purpose of a match stick is to light the lamps. You know, you strike the match stick and it burns and it lights several candles. Like that so many match sticks in a box can light so many lives. So think you are a super-sized match box. You are here to bring light, wisdom and happiness into the lives of people.So don’t worry about anything, all your little needs and desires will be taken care of, it will all happen. You have to turn and see what you are doing for the world, how you are contributing to this world and how you are enhancing spirituality in the world. This is essential and is very much needed.

Q: Guruji I want to have an intense longing for u but it comes and goes and the mind moves on to other things. How do I have this consistent intense longing for you?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Never mind, have some fun. If you say ‘I don’t have longing’, that also is another longing. You’re longing for the longing; it’s like when you are angry, you are then angry because you are angry. Similarly you are longing for longing, know that is also longing.

Q: I am thinking today that everything is permeated with light and when I look into myself your light is within me. In me, in him and all of them, it is you only that is present. Where ever I see everywhere it is you who are shining. Where have you come from, who are you, tell me that at least today?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: If you want to know who I am then there is a deal you will have to make with me. The deal is that first you have to know who you are. When you find out who you are then you will know who I am and this is also what I want, that you know who you are and then you will know who I am.


Q: In a world that is changing so fast you still seem to be the same, unchanged and so beautiful and so adorable. How is that Guruji?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Some questions are to be wondered about, so this too is not a question but something you need to wonder about. Questions are always bent, crooked, but wonder is always straight. So transforming life from question to wonder is knowledge. Knowledge does not give answers to questions but changes the questions to wonder. So this is something that you should wonder about.

Friday, May 13, 2011

"While we live we should be happy and allow others to be happy"

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Every day we have to take some time off to make ourselves peaceful. For this, we need to become aware that all that is there today will not be there someday, like the bubbles in the water. We should know the impermanence. While we live we should be happy and allow others to be happy. When we remember death, the questions about life become less.While we live we have to achieve two things - how much love we have shared and how much wisdom we have gained. These are the only two things that remain with us even after we die.
Every day we should sit for a few minutes and meditate - be free from all unnecessary things like what others think about us. We have to realize that God (Paramatma) is omnipresent. If He is not omnipresent, we cannot call Him, God. He is always there, everywhere and in everyone of us. We close our eyes and see Him and that is meditation. Guru, God and Atma (soul) are the same.
When you have a question, ask yourself several times, and when you don't get the answers, then only ask the Guru. Other things you will get by your prarabdha (past karma) and all good things will happen.

अपनी योग्यता का १०० प्रतिशत प्रयास करे.

प्रश्न: लोगो को मुझ से बहुत अपेक्षाये है, इसके लिए मैं क्या करू ?

श्री श्री रवि शंकर: यह उनकी समस्या है, आप अपनी योग्यता का १०० प्रतिशत प्रयास करे, और उसके लिए जो भी कर सकते है, उसे करे , और फिर भी यदि कोई और अपेक्षा करे तो यह उनकी समस्या है( श्री श्री ने श्रोताओ से भगवत गीता को सीखने में उनके प्रगति के बारे में प्रश्न किया फिर श्रोताओ ने सातवें अध्याय के श्लोको का मंत्रोचारण किया, और श्री श्री ने उनके अर्थ पर प्रकाश डाला )जब कोई योगी निद्रा में होते है, तो हर कोई जागता है और जब हर कोई निद्रा में होते है, तो योगी जागते है यह बात भगवान श्री कृष्ण भगवत गीता में कही है क्या आपने इसे पहेले सुना है ? इसका क्या अर्थ है? इसका सरल अर्थ है, जब हर कोई उत्तेजित और चिंतित होता है,कि क्या होने वाला है तो योगी आरामपूर्वक विश्राम करते है योगी जानते हैं कि सबकुछ उत्तम और जन सामान्य के लिए अच्छा ही होगा योगी में यह विश्वास होता है और जब सब कोई निद्रा में होते है और योगी जागते है का अर्थ है, योगी जीवन के सत्य के बारे में सचेत होते हैं, जब हर कोई निद्रा में होते हैं यह कोई विचार नहीं करता कि उसका अंत क्या होगा, वह कहां पर जायेगा, जीवन क्या है, और मैं कौन हूं जब इनमे से कोई भी प्रश्न लोगो के मन में उत्पन्न नहीं होते है तो वे निद्रा में है लोग सिनेमा देखने मे और विडियो गेम खेलने मे लुप्त हो गए हैं ऐसे भी कई लोग हैं जो वृद्ध अवस्था मे विडियो गेम खेलने की शुरुवात करते हैं व्यक्ति यह नहीं देख रहा हैं कि मृत्यु निकट आ रही हैं वह यह सोचता ही नहीं हैं कि कैसे उसने अपने मन मे इतनी लालसा और घृणा को एकग्रित करके रखा हैं और वह अपने मन को साफ और स्वच्छ करने के लिए कुछ नहीं करता यदि आप इन मन के संस्कारो की सफाई नहीं करते हैं तो फिर आप को वही मन और संस्कार मृत्यु के बाद भी ढोने होंगे जब आप की मृत्यु होती हैं तो आपका मन खुश और आनंदमयी होना चाहिए जो कोई भी ऐसी निद्रा में होता है तो वह अपने भीतर मन में कचरा एकाग्रित कर रहा होता है परन्तु योगी सतर्क और सचेत होते हैं और वे अपने मन में किसी का भी बाहरी कचरा नहीं लेते उस आदमी ने मुझे ऐसा क्यों कहां ? उस महिला ने मुझे ऐसा क्यों कहां ?आपका मन पूरी तरह से दूसरों की त्रुटियों के बारे में सोचने मे नष्ट हो जाता है दूसरों की त्रुटियों को उनके पास ही रहने दीजिये उनसे उन्हें ही निपटने दीजिये आप अपने मन और त्रुटियों से निपटे, वही काफी है क्या आप मे दूसरों की गलतियों को स्वीकार करने का धैर्य है? आपको दूसरों की गलतियों को स्वीकार करना चाहिए और फिर आपसे जितना हो सके उन गलतियों को सुधारे यदि आप अत्यंत दयालु है, तो ही उसे सुधारे यद्यपि उसे प्रकृति पर छोड़ दीजिये, उन्हें अपना मार्ग मिल ही जायेगा परन्तु यदि आप करुणामय है, तो उसे करुणा के साथ सुधारे, फिर वह आपके मन या मस्तिष्क पर हावी नहीं होगा आप कब क्रोधित या उदास होते हैं ? जब आपने किसी के कृत्य मे त्रुटियों को देखा क्या आप इस तरह से किसी की त्रुटियों को ठीक कर सकते है ? उनके कृत्य मे त्रुटि थी परन्तु अब उसके बारे मे सोच कर आपका मन त्रुटिपूर्ण बन गया है कम से कम अपने मन को तो संभाल कर रखे यदि कोई गलत मार्ग पर चला गया है, तो क्यों आपका मन भी गलत मार्ग पर भटक जाना चाहिये ! ठीक है ? इसलिए वे कहते है कि और जब हर कोई निद्रा में होता है, तो योगी जागते है और जब आप ऐसी निद्रा में होते है तो आप अपने मन के भीतर दूसरों का कचरा एकाग्रित कर लेते है परन्तु योगी ऐसा नहीं होने देते वे अपने मन की ताज़गी बनाये रखते है

Wednesday, May 11, 2011

ज़टिल जीवन के बीच में मुस्कुराते मुस्कुराते गुज़र जाना बुद्धिमानी है।

प्रश्न: गुरुजी, शादी में इतने प्यार के बावज़ूद भी झगड़े क्यों होते हैं?

श्री श्री रवि शंकर: क्या कहें? हमे तो पता ही नहीं है! ना पता लगाने की चेष्टा करी मैने! हो सकता है कुछ जोड़ स्वर्ग में बनकर स्वर्ग से थक गएं हों, फ़िर नर्क में उतर आए हों, यां स्पेशल category में बने होंगे नर्क में।
देखो, हर संबंध में कभी न कभी, कुछ न कुछ, कहीं न कहीं कुछ गड़बड़ भी होता है और ठीक भी होता है। तो हर परिस्तिथि में हम अपने मन को समझाएं, और थामे रहो तो सब चीज़े ठीक हो जाती हैं। देर सवेर सब ठीक हो जाता है। विलायत में अभी किसी देश में एक ब्यासी साल का पुरुष, ८० साल की अपनी पत्नि पर कोर्ट में केस कर दिया। डाइवोर्स ले लिया और केस कर दिया ८० साल के बाद। ४० साल साथ रहे, ४०-४५ साल दोनो। आखिरी में केस क्यों कर दिया? जिस कुर्सी पर वो बैठता था रोज़, पत्नि वो कुर्सि नहीं देना चाहती थी! नहीं छोड़ना चाहती थी। बाकी सब डिविज़न हो गया, कुर्सी की बात पर कोर्ट में इतना बड़ा केस हो गया! आदमी का दिमाग बहुत विचित्र है! जिस से दोस्ती करता है उसी से लड़ता है। और जिससे लड़ता है फ़िर उसी से दोस्ती की प्यास में पड़ा रहता है। तो यह जीवन बहुत ज़टिल है, और ज़टिल जीवन के बीच में मुस्कुराते मुस्कुराते गुज़र जाना बुद्धिमानी है। सिर्फ़ व्यक्ति को ही देखते रहोगे तो अज्ञान में रग जाओगे। व्यक्ति नहीं है व्यव्हार। व्यक्ति के पीछे जो चेतना है, सत्ता है, उसको देखो तो वो एक ही चेतना है - इस व्यक्ति से ऐसा कराया, उस व्यक्ति से वैसा कराया, उस व्यक्ति से वैसा कराया। इस तरह से व्यक्ति से पीछे जो चेतना जिस के कारण सब है और सब होता है, उसको पहचानना ज्ञान है। समझ में आया यह। हम सब को देखो तो हर व्यक्ति भीतर क्या है - Hollow and Empty. और जैसा विचार आया कुछ वैसा उन्होने व्यवहार कर दिया। उसका क्या कसूर है।

तथास्तु।

प्रश्न: हम हमारी सहनशीलता को कैसे बड़ा सकते हैं?


श्री श्री रवि शंकर: फ़िर वही बात! सहनशीलता मुझमें नहीं है जब मान के चलते हो तो वैसे हो जाएगा। हमारी दादी माँ कहा करती थी कभी कोई चीज़ नाकारात्मक नहीं बोलना। क्यों। कहती थी कुछ देवता घूमते रहते हैं उनका नाम है अस्तु देवता। वो बोलेंगे तुम कुछ कहोगे - तथास्तु। मानलो घर पर मिठाई नहीं है तो कभी नहीं कहती थी मिठाई नहीं है। कहती थी बाज़ार मिठाई से भरा हुआ है चलो बाज़ार चलते हैं। शब्दों में भी वो यह नहीं कहती थी कि मिठाई खत्म हो गई है। कहदोगे तो पता नहीं कहाँ अस्तु देवता घूम रहे होंगे तो तथास्तु कह देंगे। फ़िर खत्म ही रहेगा सब। इस तरह काजु चाहिए हमे, काजु भरा हुआ है बाज़ार चलते हैं! उस पीढ़ि के लोगों में कितना विश्वास था मन में। और यह बात सच भी है। वैज्ञानिक तौर से भी सही है। हम जिसको नहीं समझ के मानते है वैसा होता है। आभाव को मानोगे तो अभाव ही रहता है। कई लोग बोलते हैं पैसा नहीं है हमारे पास तो अस्तु देवता बोल देंगे तथास्तु ऐसे हो जाए। तो जिन्दगी भर वही नहीं नहीं गीत गाते चले जाते हैं। तो कभी भी तृप्ति नहीं होती। एक समृद्धि का अनुभव करो, महसूस करो। मेरे पास सब कुछ है। फ़िर तुम्हारे पास होने लगता है। मेरे पास नहीं है, मुझ में प्यार नहीं है - फ़िर ऐसा ही लगने लगता है। मैं बहुत प्यारा हूँ। समझ कर चलो तो प्यार ही प्यार मन में झलकता है।एक बड़े कंजूस व्यक्ति हमारे पास आए तो मैं बोलता हूँ तुम कितने उदार हो। तो एक बार हमारे पास आकर बोलते, "गुरुजी आप हमेशा बोलते हैं मैं उदार हूँ मैं उदार हूँ। मैं कहाँ उदार हूँ? मैं तो कितना कंजूस हूँ। मैं अपने पत्नि तक दस रूपय नहीं खर्चा करने देता हूँ। आप कैसे मुझे उदार बोलते हो? बच्चे जाते हैं काँगेस exibition में तो एक से दूसरी कैन्डी खरीद के देने में मुझे हिचकिचाहट होती है। मैं एक ही मिठाई खरीद के देता हूँ, और आप मुखे उदार बोलते हैं। ताकिं तुम उदर बन जाओ।तो जिस भावना को अपने में उभारना चाहते हैं, उसको मानके चलना पड़ता है वो है हमारे में। उसको नहीं है मानकर चलोगे तो नहीं है हो जाएगा। यह याद रखो, "काजु भरा है, बाज़ार चलते हैं!"

Monday, May 9, 2011

Who is Guru?

Q: How did you know you were a Guru? Did you have a Guru? Sometimes I wonder if I’m a Guru, maybe just for myself. What would you say to that?
Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: You can’t be a surgeon for yourself. You may be a surgeon but you can’t be your own surgeon, right? So your mother is your first Guru. A mother teaches you. Of course, a Guru is one who is unconditional in his attitude and approach towards you. You should play a role of a Guru unconditionally. You help others or care for someone with wisdom. Then you are playing the role of a Guru to them too.
If you help somebody with an attitude of ‘I want nothing, I just want your progress’ then you’re a Guru to them. Yet don’t demand them to accept you as Guru. No, a real Guru does not demand anything, not even gratitude from somebody.

Thursday, March 31, 2011

DEVOTION!

Q: Even after being born as a human being who is the highest among all the species on this planet why do we desire freedom? Is there more beautiful than this?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: See wanting happiness is natural, everyone wants happiness but happiness does not come alone. Happiness brings along his twin sorrow also with him but no one likes sorrow and everyone wants freedom from sorrow. Freedom one wants from what? Sorrow and to want freedom from sorrow also is natural. Just as much as wanting happiness is natural the same way wanting freedom from sorrow is also natural. Okay, now the faster one realizes that happiness is there but sorrow is also there then the desire for freedom becomes stronger.The one who does not wish for happiness receives freedom and the one who does not even wish for freedom is the one who receives devotion. One who does not crave for happiness is already free but if one craves for happiness then one will also crave for freedom. When happiness does not please you then you have achieved freedom but when freedom also does not please you then you receive DEVOTION! Devotion brings so much happiness and pleasure to you. ___________________________________________ _____


Q: Guruji, you say the love is great and fearless. Then why is it that the person I am in love with is so fearful?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: The one you are in love with is fearful? Okay! That we don’t know how much you have scared him that he has become so fearful. First see whether the person you are in love with is also in love with you. See, sometimes we think we love someone but we don’t even know how to properly express our love to another. It is very hard to express how much love you are feeling in your heart to someone else. How are you going the express? With words you will not be able to express. Something as deep as love does not come in the realm of expression. It is very difficult to express and sometimes when you try very hard and with a lot of effort to express this love people get scared. The other person should also know how to accept and receive your love isn’t it? That’s why it is important to know to how to express and how much of our love to express to each person, yeah!Just imagine you have someone day and night calling you again and again and telling you, ‘I love you, I love you, I love you’, then what you will say, okay, yes, you love me, fine what next, right?!So until we do not turn towards wisdom we are not able to properly express or receive love, for that also there is some eligibility. With wisdom one is so full of love that love exudes from every action. In life when we embrace the divinity then all our relationships blossom by themselves but if you try to fix your relationships one by one it does not work. From one side things will get better and from the other side it will get worse, so you be centered in yourself, be in devotion and everything else will be taken care of. ____________________________________________

Everything is happening... you are just witness!

Q: Even after giving 100% effort one does not succeed, what is the reason behind this?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: See; don’t think that by giving your 100% alone that work gets done. For success or work to get done there are five things you require. First the intention of the person who is doing, then availability of the instruments or things needed to do the work, then the willingness or mindset to do the work. Then doing the work at the right time, there is a time to do the work, if you don’t do it at the right time then there is no use. If you sow seeds in February then there is no use, you then cannot say that I sowed the seeds but nothing has come. You have to wait till April after the rain then you sow the seeds and then you yield the results. So time is a very important factor and you could get results now or you could get it later that also you cannot say. When we came to this Ashram this whole land was barren, there was not one leaf or one tree on this land. Today see how many trees and plants are there and these trees did not come in one day, so many people have put lots of effort and after some time the trees grew. So this is how time is an important factor and then grace. Without grace of the divine there will be no success, that is why if you want grace then you must do Seva, sadhana, satsang and in time you will get the fruits of all your efforts. Okay! None of your efforts will go waste that you should be assured about, if not now you will see the results later.


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Q: Guruji what is the use of Seva? How does it help meditation?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Listen, suppose you are stranded in some place and you need someone to give you a lift in their car or taxi and nobody stops their car to give you a lift, how would you feel? You are carrying two bags and you have to go to the restroom in a railway station. You can’t leave the bags unattended and you have to go to the restroom, what will you do? You will find some nice elderly person, go to them and keep the bags with them requesting them to take care while you go for five minutes to the restroom. Don’t you need other’s help? If they refuse to help you then how can you survive? You know in this world as human beings we have to help each other and that is what seva is.Seva means what? ‘Sa’ means ‘him’ which refers to God and ‘Eva’ means ‘like him’; doing things like him. God does so many things for you but does not expect anything in return from you. Whether you pray to him, thank him or not he will still continue to do. He is not doing you a favor. When you thank God, that is for your own joy, it does not matter to God. In the same way whether people acknowledge your work or not, whether they thank you or not you still do it because you find that it is important to do!


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Q: When everything that is to happen is already decided then why do we have to act and then in the name of action how are we responsible?


Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Why are you asking this question? See there are two levels, like the molecular level on the basis of which everything is the same. E. g. if you see this stand is wood, this door is wood, everything is made from wood, but you cannot sit on the door and neither can you make a chair a door, even though everything is wood. Just like that on one level we say that everything is happening but on another level we are also required to act. You continue to act and as you continue doing you will see that, ‘I didn’t do anything, everything happened and is happening’, that is wisdom. Once I went to prison to address the prisoners. I was called to speak to them after they had completed the course. So I asked them how many of you have committed any crime. No one raised their hand. Then I asked how many of you are innocent and have been put into prison, and everyone raised their hand. ‘We are innocent, we have not done anything and we have just been put into prison. We have not done anything but it just happened’. So even a thief is saying that he did not do anything but it just happened. A man has murdered another person but when I asked him he said I did not do it, I don’t know at that time what went into to me that the murder just happened. So a person who has committed some of the worst crimes also says that he did not do it. Just like that people who do wonderful work, if you ask them did you do this, they will say no I didn’t do anything, it all just happened, fell into place, I didn’t do anything.This is a state of consciousness where you realize things are not happening because of your effort, it is happening due to some law, due to some power in the creation which is making everything happen.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Patience

"Have Patience, keep up the hope that it may happen. Know that whatever is good for us will be given."

Thursday, March 17, 2011

known and unknown !! bang!!

Q: I get angry often and I don’t live knowledge up to the mark. But I feel I am very close to you. Is this an illusion or really it is so?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: Of course! Don’t be too harsh on yourself. Be natural. Ok? Don’t drain yourself thinking, “Oh I don’t live up to the knowledge”. If it happens sometimes it is ok. Move on. Life moves on. So many things fall into the river – leaves, flowers and the river takes everything forward. Time is carrying life forward. So, move forward. Actually what we are doing? We have turned our head backwards and are trying to moving forward. All that you need to do is to look ahead. You have done mistakes in the past, accept it and move on.
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Q: How do I come out of the victim consciousness, esp. when past memories refuse to leave?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: The fact that you have realized this itself means you have come out of it. This is where the karma comes into the picture. Something happened in the past, it was to happen and so it happened. Accept the past and don’t brood over it, move on. Suppose you have committed some mistake, you have insulted somebody and that person holds on to it for so long, even after you have asked for forgiveness from them a million times, what do you do if that person still doesn’t forgive you? Somebody has been wrong to you and you also have been wrong to someone. Don’t you seek forgiveness and move on? You don’t want someone to hold on to your mistakes for your whole life, isn't it? If the person forgives you, moves on, understands your position, how do you feel? See the other person in the same way.
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Q: If somebody is feeling guilty for the wrong done but may be because of ego He is not able to talk, what should one do?

Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: You being in victim consciousness and having rage and anger, does it help you any way to carry on your life? Absolutely not! Waste of time, waste of your potential and life. So we must forgive, forget and move on. You hurt someone in the past and somebody hurt you, that account is closed now. Finished! There was some problem that has to come, and that has come and our own foolishness made it happen. Now it is finished and move on. This is the line of thinking that you must adopt and that makes us feel better.
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Wednesday, March 16, 2011

real worth

प्रश्न: समृद्धी कैसे बढ़ाई जा सकती है?
श्री श्री - केवल पैसा होना ही धन नहीं है। आपके पास बड़ी बैंक राशि हो, बड़ी रियासतें हों पर यदि मुख पर तनाव झलकता हो तो आप इतने दुखी नज़र आते हैं कि कोई आपको समृद्ध नहीं कह सकता।
समृद्धि केवल ढ़ेर सारा धन जमा करना नहीं है, समृद्धि का अर्थ है जीवन की भव्यता को मान्यता देना, जीवन का सम्मान करना। व्यक्ति का सच्चा धन उसका मनोबल है। धन का जीवन में होने का प्रयोजन क्या है? यही कि उससे आपका मनोबल बढ़े।
जिस धन से मनोबल नहीं बढ़ सकता, वह धन ही क्या? जिस धन से बीमारी आये, तो वह धन ही क्या? जिस धन से विवाद बढ़े , वो धन ही क्या? ठीक है ना?
धन भी कई प्रकार के होते हैं जैसे - विद्या धन, ज्ञान धन, स्वास्थ्य धन, मनोबल धन, वीर्य धन इत्यादि। यदि आप में मनोबल है तो कोई भी कार्य सम्भाल सकते हो, हर प्रबंध को कुशलतापूर्वक कर सकते हो।
प्रश्न : लोग प्यार देना तो सीख गये हैं पर कैसे प्राप्त हो यह नहीं जानते तो भीतर जो इतना प्रेम समाया हुआ है उसका क्या करें? देने और पाने में सब उलट पुलट होता जा रहा है!
श्री श्री: मैंने बहुत बार इस विषय पर चर्चा की है। जब कोई आकर प्यार का प्रदर्शन करे, तुमसे बार बार कहे- "मैं तुमसे प्यार करता हूँ, मैं तुमसे प्यार करता हूँ", तो तुम कान बंद करके वहाँ से भाग जाना चाहोगे, कहोगे ठहरो, यह बहुत हो गया, और तुम भाग निकलोगे!
हम प्रेम में भी सहज नहीं हो पाते क्योंकि स्वयं से अन्तर्मन की गहराई में नहीं मिल पाये हैं, नहीं पहचान पाये हैं कि हम कौन हैं? हमें यह पता ही नहीं कि हम जिस एक तत्व से बने हैं, वह है प्रेम। इसलिये जब तक हम स्वयं से नहीं जुड़ पाते, अन्य किसी से भी नहीं जुड़ पाते। सो कोई जब तुमसे सम्बंध बनाना चाहे और तुम्हें असहजता लगे तो वह यही दर्शाता है कि तुम स्वयं से नहीं जुड़े हो और इसी कारण प्रेम पाने में असमर्थ हो।
पहले स्वयं प्रेम का सम्मान करना सीखो, और जो प्रेम का सम्मान नहीं करते उन पर बिना समझे प्रेम न्योछावर मत करते फिरो। फिर प्रेम दर्शाना, प्रेम देना भी एक कला है। प्रेम देना यानि प्रेम करना। प्रेम कोई कृत्य नहीं है, अपने अस्तित्व की ही एक अवस्था है। तुम केवल वहाँ सहजता से, बिना किसी अपेक्षा से रहो और कहो - "मैं बिना किसी शर्त के तुम्हारे लिये हूँ, तुम जब चाहो उसे ले सकते हो।"
तुम्हारे में यह मनोबल रहते सब तुम्हें बेहतर समझ सकेंगे। और फिर एक बात, तुम किसी को जबरदस्ती नहीं समझा सकते कि तुम सच्चा प्रेम करते हो, तुम यह समय पर छोड़ दो उनको स्वयं समझने के लिये। ज़ोर जबरदस्ती से समझाने की कोशिश में बात ही उलटी पड़ सकती है!

I always use to keep this in my mind......

"पहले ये विश्वास रखो कि तुम्हारे साथ केवल अच्छा ही होगा। एक बार इस पथ पर आ जाने के बाद, जान लो कि तुम्हारे जीवन के हर कदम पर अच्छा ही होगा।"